Better Marriage tips by Mark Gungor + my $.02 :)

Gentlemen, let me have your attention!
I am about to give you the single most sought after pearl of wisdom that men have craved since God made a woman out of Adam’s ribs. I’m going to tell you what a woman really wants. This is particularly significant because most women don’t even know what they want. They know they want something, but most have no idea exactly what that something is. They sense an inner longing, an inner need. They may not know how to articulate it, but they feel it desperately. What a woman wants—what she is longing for in her deepest heart of hearts is simply this: she wants to be chosen. For a woman, the whole of life is like a junior high-school dance where she stands alone thinking to herself “I want to dance.” But what she really means is “I want somebody to choose me.”
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Deb's reply :-)

If a man can write about what a woman wants, a woman can write about what the man thinks. Right? I really hope Mark has a follow up to this message in his next news letter found here Mark Gungor .

Yeah sure we want to feel wanted, I agree with that. I can also hear the man saying but honey didn't I already pick you, I mean we are married now. You girls are shaking your head in agreement now, I can see you. :-) Our men are made up of different material then woman. I know God intended for us to be equally yoked but does that count in the romance department too? The man is a mans man, you know the sports fanatic, workaholic who comes home and needs time in his own BOX family man. If your kind enough to share an ounce of information that remotely takes his side in any area of his life he is like he struck gold and will use that info every occasion he can which makes us woman rethink how much info we really want to share with them. :-) Would it be different if the man would react differently to what we their other half share with them? For me I don't know, probably not I have walked both sides of that coin. It just depends on his mood of what side we fall on.

Yesterday post was about ASKING. Men will ask for sex, woman want to be wooed. I better watch it because on Marks link there on the front he has an article about scheduling sex....I haven't read it yet. :-/ I take that back the sentence I did read said woman want sex MORE then their hubby? I beg to differ. I bet woman want all the stuff before the sex way more then the sex.

Men don't just grab at your wife and call that wooing. That will get a quicker cold shoulder then a 10 minutes of roll in the hay. Talk to her. LISTEN to her. See what she has to say. Focus on her, if that means turning off the TV then so be it. There is nothing more then not having eye contact when a person is speaking, that bugs me. I want to know that I am being heard or listening well when spoken to. Isn't everyone like this? Five minutes of good deep conversation will get that good ol' roll in the hay and it will last longer then the 10. :-)

Men I know that you feel that all she has to talk about is kids or soaps and here you had to deal with real things like the JOB and how your the head of the house. You need to be focused on that not the piddly things of life, that is a woman's job to do. That's a whole different blog entry that I am not touching. :-)

A woman wants her man to look her in the eyes and for a moment hold that look and really see deep inside her ... that moment of real connection that's made without saying a word is what she wants. Men remember the longer the look the better the sex. If this is the first time in a long time that you have connected in this way take your time. Don't say honey let me look at you so we can have good sex. Its better for the man to keep quiet. Every hand holding doesn't mean sex. Just as every long gaze doesn't either, but what they will do is lead to a better tomorrow.

I love you all a ton!

Deb